an a-spec positivity blog, with a focus on aromanticism! est. 2015. our ask box is always open. anyone is welcome to follow! run by mod a & mod b 💚💖💜
You’re allowed to find pride in your asexuality and aromanticism. I know it can be difficult, between people not knowing or believing it exists and people who might accept that it exists but will always see it as pitiful and insignificant, something to be silent about, something shameful or “tmi”, something to mention as an afterthought. But aromanticism will always be far more complex and far-reaching and life altering and significant than people who brush it off as “doesn’t date” are able to understand, and asexuality will always be more nuanced and eye-opening and liberating than people who brush it off as “doesn’t have sex” will ever understand. You’re allowed to find meaning in these labels and in the communities surrounding them, and you’re allowed to show pride for who you are.
❤️ It is more important that your understanding of yourself be
honest than timely.❤️
[ID: a digital drawing of rita lounging on a windowsill in shorts, a tank top and a sweater. she is holding a steaming mug of tea and smiling widely. there is a speech bubble with a heart in it to her right, and the backdrop of the window is the aromantic flag. END ID]
Anonymousasked:
Hey is is ok for aros to not be interested in QPRS or poly things? i am aro and these make me uncomfy but i support others who like them, theyre just not for me but people make it sound as if all aros like them :)
Yes, absolutely! You are not at all required to want or participate in QPRs or any kind of poly relationship. Your choices about your life, relationships, and identity are entirely your own. These are tools that help some aro people, but not all, and you don’t have to be one of them who does!
I’m all for going about queerness with the goal of not being able to be understood by outsiders but like. you’ve GOT to be normal about aro & ace people if you do. you can’t go on about being confusing to cishets for fun and then complain about ace & aro people who go about sex and romance and attraction in ways that don’t make sense to you.
supporting queerness that confuses others should include queerness that confuses YOU too even if you’re queer yourself.
The response to “ace people are just virgins who can’t get laid!” Shouldn’t be “ace people can still have sex!” but instead “ being a virgin isn’t a bad thing.”
The response to “aro people are just heartless freaks!” Shouldn’t be “aro people can still feel love!” And instead be “not feeling love or other emotions doesn’t make you a bad person.”
Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be “normal like allos” we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.
tired of “aspec coded” characters that are only aspec coded bc they’re so dedicated to their work. what abt the aspecs that don’t do shit. what about lazy aspec representation
Coming out is a personal choice, and something that should be done because you want to. You don’t have to come out if you don’t want to. You don’t have to come out if you’re not ready yet.
“being aromantic isn’t sad! being aromantic isn’t lonely!” new mindset. being aromantic is sexy. being aromantic is beautiful. being aromantic is wonderful
My first contribution to Aro Week 2023, where I want to visually highlight that aro joy exists; It’s real, it comes distinctive to each person in it own way and it deserves celebrating and embracing. We are too often seen as though we’ll never by able to experience joy because of our aromanticism, it’s almost expected of us, but I don’t believe that our aro identities are a setback to happiness; Rather the opposite.
Aro joy exists, and it deserves to be seen, respected, and celebrated.
This design is available at my shop along with some other designs that’ll appear in the week!
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